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Sunday, August 09, 2009

Quarter Life Crisis

Something I found somewhere and felt like sharing.

BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING... :)

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the
greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing
, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.You begin to think a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends.... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis"

4 comments:

  1. Hi, i m 30 and in the same state of cofusion as you have described!
    one partner in life better than 100 in the shack,
    Loans and future and all, worries about making a life of yourself..

    "quater life crisis" ending into the "mid life crisis". !!
    Find a job and get married in time, take loans but burn out yourself in repaying them, although keep striving...suggest me something, Arrow.

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  2. I wish there was a simple answer, take some decisions which make sense to you right now. Be ready to bear the brunt of others and give up on a few things for these decisions. For example, everyone will ask you to buy a house...as soon as possible... you most likely will..... and then who will pay the EMIs ...you ? So if you think you don't like so much debt, don't buy a house. Decide to live in a well-furnished rented house. If everyone is buying, some of them will definitely rent. Some choose to buy..some choose to rent.

    Keeping this realty market at bay, choice is always yours... because life is only yours.

    All the best and wish you a happy new year :)

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  3. I was actually looking for a 'like' button on this post! :)

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  4. I was actually looking for a 'like' button on this post :) Amazing it is!

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